Empathicness...The
next step in the evolution of mankind?
Are
you empathic? Are you someone who picks up on other people’s emotions and
feelings? In the past, those with empathicness have considered it to be a real
problem in that they were constantly dealing with emotions, upsets, etc. and
couldn’t figure out why. Empaths feel emotions as energy and have had
difficulty going into crowded areas like the supermarket or shopping areas
because they come away with all the upsets, anger, fear, etc. that is left by
the unknowing general public. If everyone was empathic, people would be more
careful with their emotional states and would realize that it is energy that can
be picked up by others...in particular by empaths.
Everyone
may be born empathic, but many shut it off (by closing the heart) as they grow
up. They believe that this helps to protect them from all the hurt and pain, but
it stops them from feeling how others are feeling and from experiencing and
expressing love. Those people who have stayed empathic in life (who are what I
call natural empaths) seem to have a number of things in common:
If
some or all of these things fit you, then you are likely empathic. It may have
seemed to be a kind of living hell but, once you can recognize it as what it is,
there are ways to deal with it effectively and to turn it into the gift that it
is meant to be to help us all understand one another on this world.
First,
if you are an empath, almost all your issues are not yours. Yes, you may find
that hard to believe, but we have now proven it to be true with a very large
sampling of empaths (over 500). Realizing this, the first thing to do when you
start to "go down" is to ask yourself intuitively if the source of
this problem is yours or someone else’s. Yes, the energy will have a resonance
with you or it would not have come to you, but first transmute it as if it is
not yours. Let it pass on through. You don’t need to hold on to it. Send
it to the Light and replace it with Divine Light or Love. Then ask what is the
lesson that it is pointing you to; get it and integrate it into your life. Then
ask, assuming it really is not yours (which 99.9% of the time it will not be)
ask whose it is and whether you can assist this person with it in some way. Your
empathy is your signal to work. So, once you have transmuted the energy,
turn your heart chakra around (facing outward in ‘transmit mode’ instead of
inward in ‘receive mode’). Send healing, love, light, a telepathic
conversation to the person to help resolve the issue, etc. You get the point.
Turn and work. Do something about it.
You
cannot help someone else heal by taking on their pain and suffering. Almost all
empaths do this naturally and automatically, to transmute the suffering of
others, but because they have believed the suffering was their own, they
couldn’t transmute it. The only way to transmute something is to love it and
it seems to be very difficult to love your own suffering. How you can use your
gift is to find out whose problem it is and then ask what you can do to help
that person. If you try to transmute it without their having gotten the lesson
and you think it is yours, then you end up with a problem and they recreate it
again for themselves so that they can eventually learn from it. When the person
is ready, willing, and committed to transmute their stuff, then you can act as
the facilitator for the release. You cannot heal anyone who is not ready to
be healed. If you are empathic, you may understand it intellectually but not
really be able to act upon it because it is natural for you to reach out to take
it from them, to try to make it better for them. But it does not work. That’s
the problem for you. So, if you can, do not take it on yourself. Over the past
year (1997 and into mid 1998) many empaths have found themselves moving into a
more detached view of things (dispassionate compassion) and seem to be not so
willing to take it on for others. An empath going down with someone else’s
problem is increasing the problem for the world by adding to the disharmonious
energy.
To
help you keep your energies strong, keep the energy spaces in which you live and
work as clear as possible. Sunshine and open windows really help. If someone has
come to visit you, or you’ve run into someone who is down or angry, be
prepared to clear yourself energetically of their emotional state. Know
that it is not yours and do what you can to clear it. A shower and a change of
clothes is often a good way to clear energy but may not do the whole job. Get
outside in a clear space and blow it out from you, and ask that this energy be
taken from you and from the Earth.
For
protection, try this. Feel your heart open wide and then feel all your higher
chakras opening as well. Feel the flow of energy from the Source coming straight
down the pranic (chakra) tube into your heart. Let it move through your body and
ground down into your feet and into the Earth. Grounding really helps you stay
strong and centered to be able to work. Call for your own Spirit energy, your
Life Force, to join with you fully. Feel this energy move in and through your
body, and then out through the pores to fill the room, the house, and beyond.
Every time you need to enter into a crowd or to do shopping, etcetera, use this
exercise before you go out. Your true protection is the Light that you fill
yourself with.
When
you are out and you see something that disturbs you, do not judge it nor sympathize
with it. Judgment and pity will ensure that you pick up the energy of it. Compassion
is the answer as it has no judgment or pity in it. A compassionate view
knows that all things are perfect and that the spirit has a purpose for
everything it chooses in life. If you cannot do anything else to help a
situation, send Light to it through your heart with compassion as the focus.
Find
out what it is you are here to do on the Earth - and do it. Begin to do the
things you love doing. Let go of the past and all of the cultural conditioning
that says you cannot do it because... Experience the joy of living. Despite what
it feels like, the world is getting brighter each day as more and more people
learn to release their issues and emotions and walk in the world of energy
sensitivity. Choose life and express it for yourself as often as possible.
Almost
every empath we have met comes from angelic origins and was also on Earth at the
time of Christ (see the ‘Moments with Christ’ article in the March
newsletter on our home page on the Internet for more details). There is an
empathic circle of people all over the world that works every day, consciously
and unconsciously, to transmute the world’s fear and suffering. They link
through the heart, they send love to the Earth for its transformation, and they
transmute the mass consciousness always. This is why it is very important,
especially now, that you assume that the energies and emotions you experience
are not yours. Use the empathic reaction as a signal to work and get it
conscious for what you do. Doing your work consciously on the 3D level gives it
ten times the power than doing it unconsciously (which you are doing anyway). It
is also a lot more fulfilling to do it consciously. You then know you are
making a difference.
Begin
to teach others to be empathic (they are all becoming it anyway as the chakra
system is opening for all of humanity). Train the people around you to
understand the gift of empathicness and to be respectful of energies and
others’ sensitivities. It is really the rest of the world that needs to learn
to be sensitive. You don’t need to desensitize. You just need to learn to use
your sensitivity as a signal to work.
Don’t
we all need to learn to have compassion and understanding for all beings to make
this a better world? Empathicness is the next step on the evolutionary path for
mankind. How can we achieve brotherhood and peace until we share one another’s
feelings and understand one another as if we are one? If you are an empath, you
are blessed and are holding a gift that the world is in much need of right now.
Begin to dance with it as the gift that it is. And, rather than sinking in a sea
of emotion that is not yours, be passionate in doing your particular work to
clean up the emotional mess and train people to respect the emotional
sensitivity of others. We all need to learn from you. Thank you for being one of
those who is holding the open heart for all of us to learn from.