No Right Way to Live
-by Robert Fritz
the time we were infants, we were told that there is a “right” way to live
your life. Therefore, your job is to find that right way. Everyone
has an opinion about how you should live. Some think you should pursue
spiritual growth, personal development, and perfect yourself. Some think
you should get involved with acts of kindness. Some think you should save
the world, or have the right politics, or adopt the right belief. We have been
sold a bill of goods.
everyone has, somewhere in the back of his or her mind, an image of the correct
way to live. Most people are not aware of how much they have taken on the
concept of how they should live their lives, so the concept remains unnoticed
even when it is a major influence in how they think of goals, values, symbols of
success and failure, where they should be at certain ages, the types of
relationships, family, career, home, organizations of which they should belong.
chance, you have an unknown image in the recesses of your mind. This image will
plague you until it is confronted. Sometimes the image comes from role
models you admired in your youth. For some, it’s James Bond, for some,
it’s their favorite Rock star. Maybe it’s an astronaut like Neil
Armstrong. Maybe it’s Mother Teresa or Amelia Earhart. Maybe it is
a combination of several role models, all mixed up, all vying for your attention
and acquiescence. One thing that is important to know is that you will
never be able to live up to that concept.
course, many like to put themselves in a position of authority about how you
should live. For some, it’s a business opportunity given they sell their
theories with the promise of happiness, success, and rewards. For others,
it is a calling in that they feel compelled to spread their hypothesis of how
life should be lived. For others, it is confirmation of their own belief
systems, because they feel that the more people who agree with them, the more
validity their beliefs have. For others, it’s a way to pass the day, as
they think about their friends and families lives, and how they would change the
way those people would live. As they say about certain parts of the human
anatomy, everyone has got an opinion about the right way to live.
can say to what you should aspire, or what you should hold dear, or who you
should love, or what you should think. Of course, this can be a scary
thought. Freedom is a hard issue for most people. One thing that
makes it hard is a common confusion which can be captured in this one common
reaction to the idea that often comes up when freedom is discussed, “No one is
free to throw their garbage on my lawn.”
your garbage on someone else’s lawn is not a question of freedom. It is
a question of sovereignty. It is about ownership and jurisdiction.
But, when pursing that line of attack, the deeper issue of your freedom to live
your life anyway you see fit gets lost.
basic misconception that generates the dogmatic pronouncements about how you
should live comes from society’s notion about people. The underlying
assumption is that people can’t be trusted, and, therefore, left to their own
devices, they will be destructive. So, therefore, people need to be
controlled. If you thought this, you would feel that it is critical to
tell others how to live.
when people are truly free to make their own choices, they choose health over
sickness, love and relationships over hate and strife, productive and meaningful
work over meaningless and fruitless endeavors, and to join together to support
each other for the common good rather than isolate themselves in a survival of
the most selfish game-theory paranoid vision of a hostile world.
does it take to enjoy such freedom? It takes freeing the mind from the
chains of all concepts. Concepts are not reality. That’s why they
are concepts. You don’t need a concept to know what you are tasting, or
smelling, or touching, or hearing. Your senses are designed to perceive
reality so that you can make decisions about what you will do in the
circumstances. Yet, so much of our world is in love with concepts.
And why not. You never have to prove a concept in reality. And if a
concept turns out to reflect reality, it is no longer a concept, but a known
fact. Freedom, like life itself, happens in reality, not in your mind.
And freedom of thought is a building block for organizing your life based on
your highest aspirations and deepest values.
next thing it takes to enjoy such freedom is mastery of the creative process.
If you can’t create what you truly want, you can wish all you want, but your
chances are slim. Not all things that people want are possible. But
we have been taught from our earliest moments on this planet that you can’t
have what you want. At least, not what you REALLY want. And, of
course, all the experts in how we should live have their lists of what we should
want. But, if you are free of concepts, if you no longer have to uphold
the image that is in the back of your mind about how you should be, you can
reinvestigate what you might really want. But this is more than discovery.
It is an evolutionary process. And here is where the creative process
becomes so essential. You can learn how to think in terms of what you
truly want by creating the small things you want first. A meal, a look for
a room, a dinner party, a blog you write, a small flower bed, and on and on it
can go. You become decisive by making decisions. You build your
creative muscle by creating. Soon you will find that, while many things
you may want are not possible, many more are. Over time and experience,
your vision of your own life becomes more your own. And while many people
might have an opinion, no one has a vote.
is no right way to live your life. But there is YOUR way. And
that’s all that counts.
Robert Fritz 2012
Thinking is the biggest and most destructive addiction on this planet.
How to Listen to Your Life -
is a personal pilgrimage that takes time and a willingness to lean into life.
With each trouble that stalls us and each wonder that lifts us, we're asked to
put down our conclusions and feel and think anew. Unpredictable as life itself,
the practice of listening is one of the most mysterious, luminous and
challenging art forms on earth. Each of us is by turns a novice and a
master—until the next difficulty or joy undoes us.
In a daily way, listening is being present
enough to hear the One in the many and the many in the One. Listening is an
animating process by which we feel and understand the moment we are in,
repeatedly connecting the inner world with the world around us, letting one
inform the other.
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Multisensory perception is life changing. It
allows us to see what is nonphysical as well as what is physical. Everyone's
life is changing in this way. We are becoming more aware of intuition. We have
more to pay attention to.
The problem with beliefs is if you don't believe what others believe, there's something wrong with you. Perhaps there's something wrong with the need to believe at all costs. Being has no need to defend anything what so ever...
"The primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation but your thoughts about it." (Oneness With All Life) Eckhart Tolle
There is only one Being. We are not separate from Being nor Nature, nor Earth, nor Solar System, nor Galaxy. There is only One and you will never know this. There is only the experience of Being in every pristine present moment. Be present and you experience the wonder. Let go of the present and you enter hell. It's that simple. The conditioned mind likes to hold onto cherished ideas (beliefs), thinking it knows better than the presence of Being. And as long as one IDENTIFIES with the mind as their Being, they will never experience Being.
Perhaps one has glimpses of this Oneness, but realize it is the mind that blocks awareness. The many like to think Being/God favors their cause or their ideas, but this is only the delusions of the mind pretending to KNOW better than Being/God. The mind prefers hell over heaven, and has conveniently convinced the many that hell is heaven. There is nothing to repent except thinking you know; thinking you know is the punishment, is the suffering. But oh how the mind must convince you. The suffering is indicative of its success!