The Way Of Light - Relationships & Sexuality

The Way Of Light

Relationships & Sexuality

Typically, the word relationship usually infers love relationships, as in loving another. Cultural programming has carefully woven an ideology about what the structure of relationships should be. These structures have been crafted from Church and State to best represent their particular interests based in fear. Love is in existence only in the context of intellectualizing love and rooting it in conditions; sort of like a carrot dangling from a stick over the head of a jackass. One is then either worthy or unworthy depending on who the judge and jury is and for what reason they give for their condemnation. This cultural structure has been ongoing for centuries benefiting the minority, while teaching the majority how to implement the pecking order for obedience to fear. Misery, pain, and suffering is the payoff for the majority. However that may be, those in power have their own particular level of misery, pain, and suffering; they just don't have any awareness of their own inner plight. Amongst our fellow citizens then is this this ongoing dance between love or fear. I can assure you that the masses truly "believe" they choose love, and yet they continue to dole out pain and suffering in the form of judgments, pretending they are loving and caring people; not so!

How we relate to ourselves is how we relate to others. As I've said before, what we judge in others is what we judge in ourselves. There is no way around this projection created from the influence of fear. When you allow yourself to get deceived away from truth, it sets up a distortion that reflects the lie, and so one sees themselves in the other who mirrors what they have disowned in themselves. The reaction to the other is really your reaction to that judgment within your own self. Our responsibility is this relationship with ourselves and for us to remain in love, we must be completely non-judgmental. When a reaction arises, who or what is it that is reacting? See if you can discern where it is coming from, as this will bring greater awareness to the problem of fear.

How you relate to yourself is directly related to how you relate to the Divine. Each of us was birthed as a soul from Mother and Father. They are equals in harmonious relations with each trusting the other implicitly. There are no judgments because their love and compassion requires none. They allow all things to unfold without judgment, for to judge would bring love to an end. Love cannot end, as it is eternal; a flame that can never be extinguished. This is what Mother and Father are; Genesis, the Great Creators. We were birthed in love from source and our soul is eternal and never ending as well. Mother and Father love us unconditionally, no matter where are path takes us; the good, bad, and the ugly are irrelevant to them. Fear would have you believe otherwise, for the only way to abolish love is through thinking and fear.

Your relationship with the Divine Mother and Father is first and foremost. Without them as your primary relationship, no other relationship has value. Mother and Father are what you are, therefore, they are your spiritual family, your support, where you turn to for unconditional nurturing and guidance, within; where in Oneness we find completion and wholeness. When we are accepting of our authentic Being, we are in acceptance of Mother and Father. One must love themselves first and foremost above all else. This is not a selfish act, it is an essential component of self-love; divine love. Non-judgment leads to Self-acceptance, which leads to self-confidence, which leads to self-worth, which leads to self-love, which leads to self-respect. To turn away from one's Divine Source is to deny one's authenticity. We are love and we come from love and to deny this primary connection is to deny our own authentic self.

Dysfunction, the living in various stages of fear, causes one to abandon their authentic self. In self-abandonment, one loses their self-worth, which is why the other becomes more important. Look at the dysfunction people put up with in friendships, work relationships, and love relationships. The many have come to "believe" this dysfunction is normal and acceptable and for good "reasons." As long as one is seeking their self-worth in the other, there is no possibility of Being. People like to "think" they are in love, that their relationships are authentic, but again it is just thinking that makes it so. Fear will convince one to believe in anything if it can deceive and manipulate in such a way as to hook one into a lie.

In truth, there is no one right way of being in an authentic relationship, because each of us relates to every other being in different authentic ways based in mutual non-judgment and self-respect. How we relate and on what level, is how relationships are created. Relationships are a natural creative process that bring all the parts into various forms of harmony. Disharmony arises when individuals resist their authentic expressions of Being. Disharmony unfolds when judgments arise from fear; fear of not getting what you want; fear of not being good enough; fear of being hurt; and or fear of being abandoned. One might be inclined to "think" relationships are based on others. In fact, they are not, they are actually based in your relationship to your authentic self. One is either in a state of self-love or self-hatred and self-loathing. The more one judges in themselves, the greater the self-hatred and self-loathing. The only guiding factor in this self-hatred and self-loathing is fear. Fear is only interested in you judging yourself, because its the only way it can get you to judge others.

Relationships are an energetic field, where one attracts what they are rooted in. If one is believing from fear, then fear based outcomes are attracted. If one is Being in love, then love based outcomes are attracted. This is a creative law. When we are unconscious in the dysfunction of fear, we attract to us that which mirrors what we are unconscious to in order to bring the judgment to conscious awareness within ourselves to purge the fear from our field of consciousness. The only way to become aware of fear and judgments is through inner awareness. Observing the flow of thoughts in the head allows one to discern between fear and love. This process of observing the mind is a relationship, which relates to how we react or not react to what arises in the mind. The most obvious realization to arise in authentic Being is that love has no need of a reaction. Fear is the only culprit that requires a reaction. Fear cannot exist without a reaction or judgment. This is a crucial understanding of how consciousness is limited/controlled through fear mentality. One might think the form is the culprit, but form is under the guiding principles of light or dark; love or fear. Being therefore, is your relationship with body, mind, soul, and spirit.

Dysfunction (fear) eventually eliminates spirit, then soul, then the body to completely imprison the mind in a program of limited thinking and rigid beliefs. Realize you are not your mind or your body. You are a soul with spirit invested within your Being. Your identity is not the form you embody, nor is it rooted in anything outside yourself or what others dictate. Your relationship with yourself is to become aware of who and what you are authentically and through creation express this out into the world. This is your gift to yourself and Mother and Father, but ultimately to the world as well. Your authenticity heals the world of dysfunction through reflecting the Divine Grace to others who are lost in their relationship to fear. Discernment (soul/spirit) will set you free if you let them into your awareness.

Loving relationships are not necessarily sexual relationships. People can and do have sexual relationships without having a loving relationship. This does not mean those who are in sexual relationships are sinful, it means they are simply in a sexual relationship. People who judge those who do so, are really judging their own desires they've suppressed and denied. It is their fear, guilt, and shame that they try to project onto others. Does that mean we all should go out and be sexual with anyone? No, but nobody has the right to tell you what your sexual relationships should be like. The real issue is whether or not the person is being respectful and honest with the other person. There are many who don' respect themselves, so how could they respect others. When a person begins to awaken, they begin to realize the cost of being sexual with those who are unauthentic. The signs are blaringly obvious. Dysfunction makes one deaf, dumb, and blind. In this unconscious state, our attractions bring us those who have similar issues relating to our own that are in need of healing. This is the main function of relationships; to bring about functionality however long it may take and however much pain and suffering one or the other may endure. Eventually they wake up in that relationship or in another one. Relationships are endless in there compassion to guide us to wholeness and full awareness.

Sexuality is a spiritual relationship with one's authentic self. Who a person is attracted to, whether that be male or female, is their authentic desire. No person or group of people have the right to dictate what form love should take. Fear does that, fear of one's own sexual attractions/desires. The anger and hatred that arise from those who judge is indicative of their own self-loathing and self-hatred in regards to those they judge. When it comes to sexual orientation, everyone has both desires within their soul. Soul decides which one to express based on spiritual relationships. The soul is not interested in cultural dysfunction, nor are our Divine Mother and Father. One cannot be a desire, one can only experience a desire. Identifying with one or the other is merely fear judging the other. Heterosexual and homosexual desire are energies that flow through certain channels. Thinking can block these energies, just as thinking can block conscious awareness. Your orientation as a soul is fluid without boundaries or judgments. Your sexuality is the expression of your soul. How soul chooses to express itself is of no concern to others in the prison of culture. Culture has domesticated, trained, indoctrinated, and programmed your sexual/spiritual orientation through an extensive punishments and rewards system that enforces obedience to the conformity of fear.

Loving yourself is a relationship, one that involves Mother and Father as your witness. Masturbation is about self-love, about pleasuring one's self, exploring one's self, and knowing one's self sexually/spiritually. Religion would have you love only the opposite reflection of who you are, when in fact you are a reflection of both male and female. Loving both sexes is about loving all of what you are. Loving the same-sex is about loving your self; exploring who and what you are. Loving the opposite-sex is about loving the opposite of what you are; exploring who and what you are. In truth, males are birthed from females, their genitalia emerges from female genitalia first and foremost. We truly are one in the same with the exception of sexual organs that shaped to conform to procreative functions for a particular incarnation. This in no way implies sex is only for procreation.

Realize that dysfunction must convince the mind of separation and distinction in order for fear to exist.

Each human being has both feminine and masculine attributes that have nothing to do with physical form. To subjugate woman to a lesser position, which is what patriarchy has accomplished, is to deny the quality of equality within each Being. Authentic Being is not interested in stifling or suppressing or judging feelings or emotions, as they are spiritual functions that lead to authenticity. Without them, one leads a life of judgment and fear. Children in their early years show us by example what we are supposed to be like; AUTHENTIC. If you look closely, there is no differences and they treat each other respectfully until dysfunction from the adult world begins to indoctrinate them into the world of fear:

Spirituality is sexuality, and expressing one's sexuality is inclusive of feelings, emotions, and physical touch. if pleasure was forbidden, then our Mother and Father would never have designed the human form with pleasure capabilities built into it. Authenticity is a pleasurable state of Being. Being authentic is joyful, blissful, ecstatic, as well as sensual, and wonderful. Are we to BELIEVE organized religions ideology on sex that is based in fear, guilt, shame, and sin? There is no original sin, only original blessing. Spirituality is sexuality and sexuality is spirituality; the two are inseparable except through belief. Only "thinking" can make it so and one has to live in fear to make separation possible. Authentic sexual expression wakes people up, shows them where the fear, guilt, and shame have imprisoned their bodies and minds. Healthy sex between authentic people allows them to become embodied. To be disembodied is to be twisted in fear, guilt, and shame.

Attractions are opportunities for spiritual growth and what we like or dislike is indicative of our love or fear. Relationships with or without sex can arise for two or more to experience whatever issue they need to explore. This is the beauty of relationships of all persuasions. Love without limits versus fear with limits are your choices. There are many who profess to be in loving relationships based purely on the fact that they are married and approved by various religious organizations. This "idea" is nothing more than an economic convenience rooted in fear. If it were about love, there would be no judgments or condemnations or ostracizing those who do not conform to their ideology. One is either rooted in fear or love; judgment or non-judgment.

The idea that monogamy is the only authentic, real, functional type of relationship is based in various forms of Christian oriented social programming. Conformity to the programming occurs through extensive economic factors, legal laws, and peer pressure that make any other type of relationship improbable if not impossible. Don't underestimate the power of peer pressure, for it has created great pain and suffering to those who don't conform to their beliefs. Those that choose non-monogamous ways are typically shunned by mainstream individuals who follow the rules to fit in and be accepted. Many are stifled by this current mode of being in relationship with others. They know within their Being that relationships can be inclusive rather than exclusive. One must realize it your creative right to create relationships that support your authentic Being. Everyone chooses all of what they experience, but those who judge the choices of others are living in fear, for love has no need of judging or in living unauthentically.

Know there are others in the world who have healthy functional authentic loving non-monogamous relationships.

Unconditional love speaks for itself and if it comes from someone's heart, then that is all that matters. If anyone thinks otherwise, then they are doing exactly that, thinking about what love is based on their own brand of brainwashing done in their early years. No book, not even the bible, can tell you about what love is. Only the heart can do that. Anyone says otherwise is not coming from their heart no matter how many times they say they are. Our culture is full of many individuals who's actions do not match their words. This is a key issue in regards to understanding any truth. The other has to do with listening deeply with your own heart, for there is where your true relationship with Mother and Father rests; where unconditional love is experienced and known. Unfortunately, we are a culture full of people who follow along blindly because someone else says so and in fear of not being accepted. Truth is, if you don't accept yourself first, no amount of others accepting you will ever be enough. So, with that said...be yourself...if you like someone of the opposite or same sex or one of each or more, that is what your being calls forth from within...honor yourself, love yourself, treasure yourself, for you are uniquely a one of a kind spiritual being in this world to do what no other can, which is to be the best you. As long as you are harming no one, then there is nothing wrong with your expression.

We all are in relationships with every person, place, and thing we come in contact within this world. Parents, children, siblings, extended families, neighbors, friends, classmates, co-workers, the environment, and all of nature. We have been taught not to pay attention to our relationship with ourselves, our deeper selves, for if we did, we would not be able to be controlled, manipulated, lied to, nor intimidated. Most people think they pay attention to themselves, but what they are really doing is paying attention to what everyone else tells them is right and wrong, and then conforming to others expectations. When we begin to relate to ourselves on our own terms, we begin to get in touch with deeper feelings to experience who we are and what we desire. We begin to become aware of a far greater Being than we ever thought we were. How can anyone go through life being what others expect them to be and still be authentic? We don't think to much about that one, but the fact is in being what everyone else expects us to be, we never become authentic. Instead we wear the face of a thousand masks...